How can Mindfulness Therapy help me?
Many people find the pressures of modern living stressful. Every day, a quarter of a million people miss work because of stress, with 75 per cent of all illnesses thought to be stress-related. And when times are hard, it can be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
That’s when a therapist can help you; therapy aims to help you deal with and overcome issues that are causing emotional pain or making you feel uncomfortable.
It can provide a safe and regular space for you to talk and explore emotional triggers, difficult feelings and experiences. The counsellor is there to support you and respect your views. They won’t usually give advice, but will help you find your own insights into and understanding of your problems.
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is a process of paying attention to your present moment experienced within the body and mind. In mindfulness there is a non-judgmental, non-reactive, compassionate and accepting attitude.
Learning to be mindful, can help us accept the inevitable ups and downs of life with more equanimity. This helps us to cope with stress, anxiety and depression. Equanimity can be described as a feeling of balance, calmness or composure. It is a state non craving for pleasant experiences or wishing things were different, but an acceptance of our experience how it is.
About Mindfulness-based Therapy
This therapy brings together the practice of Mindfulness with Core Process Psychotherapy to assist you to be fully present, from moment to moment, with their experience. You can learn to stay with the core body processes (thinking, feeling, moving, external sensing, and internal sensing) which allows you to explore and change your experience with core material which shapes our lives.
The body never lies, thus, it becomes a door that can be opened to reveal the whole character and belief system of the individual. Core Process Therapy is a powerful way of accessing and transforming limiting beliefs and behaviours.
You can learn to
- Let go of negative or limiting beliefs, attitudes or habits
- Learn self-regulation techniques
- Develop better relation and communication skills to disarm triggers
- Learn to be more compassionate, and more genuinely connected to yourself and others
What can Mindfulness Therapy help with?
Mindfulness is especially effective for changing habits, re-wiring reactive behaviours or emotional responses. calming the nervous system, and improving well-being. Through compassionate self-study, exercises and mindfulness meditation, we have the opportunity to look deeply at our beliefs and free ourselves from limiting core beliefs to live more fully.
Common issues treated:
- Anxiety, stress
- Fears or phobias
- Changing habitual behaviour
- PTSD / Trauma
- Insomnia/Sleep issues
- Depression/low energy
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem / confidence
- Self image issues
- Improving performance
New brain research shows that the adult brain remains open to change throughout its lifespan. Most people pay little attention to the flow of thoughts, yet what flows through our mind literally sculpts our brain. Our unconscious mental programs (or thought, feelings and core beliefs) influence the way we think, feel and behave. These mental programs are usually formed in childhood, and if we are unaware or haven’t updated them we may not realise that these beliefs no longer serve us. Book here
Mindfulness for Relationships
In mindful relationship therapy we focus on the relationship to grow both individual’s capacity for personal wholeness, fulfilment and evolution.
Mindful relationship therapy is different to other couples counselling. We appreciate each other’s differences, and do not try to change the other but work with these differences. We discover new skills to communicate and resolve conflicts. Mindfulness helps us to understand our thoughts and feelings by teaching us to slow down and pay attention. As we become more familiar with our habitual thoughts and feelings, this enables us to recognise our many critical inner voices that rule our lives subconsciously. Once we begin to recognise these voices we can start to chose and prevent them from affecting our perceptions of ourselves and our partner.
Mindful Relationships Therapy
In relationships we are challenged to step out of our personal limitations and grow. When wounding stems from relationships with others, repair may also come through healing our relationships with others…
Perhaps you feel unhappy or frustrated with certain aspects of your relationship but can’t seem to alter things no matter how hard you try to communicate. Despite our longing for deeper connection in our relationships, many people find themselves stuck in familiar patterns and lost as to how to overcome these difficulties. Relationships test us in many ways, we can be triggered and in a moment of distress say something that you later deeply regret.
Whether you are single or in a couple, come with your partner or alone - are gay, lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual or transgender - relationship therapy can be helpful in this situation for both individuals and/or couples. Problems with relationships can stem from family patterns, or challenges you may have experienced in your childhood as well as current issues. This can happen not only in our romantic relationships, but also in other relationships that are important to us, such as with friends, parents, children, co-workers, and neighbours.
Sustaining a conscious relationship requires that both participants choose to be there. I believe there is no shame in choosing to end a relationship when you find that you are both growing in different directions. A conscious relationship is journey not a destination.
Heather can assist you to navigate these challenges and offer an opportunity to find a way out of the loop. Heather can help couples or individuals focus on and study how he or she experiences these inner and outer conflicts. By focusing on the present moment feelings, sensations, thoughts and belief patterns in mindfulness, we can explore the deeper layers contained in each experience. Through acceptance of ourselves we can be more accepting of others. Book here
Heather has trained in Hakomi Embodied and Aware Relationships Training (H.E.A.R.T) with Dr Halko Weiss and Dr Karen Baikie.